Part 2 (Desires Series): What influences the formation of desires? Understanding is key to success.

Part 2 (Desires Series): What influences the formation of desires? Understanding is key to success.

This is Part 2 of a 3-part series of blog posts related to realisation/manifestation of desires.

Part 1: The Genuineness of Our Desires – Figuring Them Out

(You are here) Part 2: What influences the formation of desires? Understanding is key to success.

Part 3: Coming Soon


In our previous article (Part 1: The Genuineness of Our Desires), we looked at how one of the biggest problems with manifestation of desires is figuring out how true (genuine) a desire is. We also covered several common types of desires that are often personally felt to be genuine, but which – after a bit of examination – turn out to be illusory. (We also defined what exactly we mean by the word “desire.”)

Today, we’re continuing to examine the topic of desires from other angles and will tackle the question of where they actually come from and how they form in our conscious and subconscious world.




  • The importance of understanding the unique algorithms behind the formation of your desires
  • Parameters of desire formation:
    1. Your role
    2. The object
    3. Time
    4. Other people
    5. Your subconscious
    6. Actions


The importance of understanding the unique algorithms behind the formation of your desires

I consider this topic very important and in fact fundamental to successful manifestation of your desires. I am often reminded that each of us is capable of finding the optimum method of realising even our most sacred desire under one condition: we UNDERSTAND what is happening with us, what moves us, and what holds us back. Our reality is formed through a combination of factors and each of us possesses a totally unique combination.

Read on for a free bonus at the bottom of this article: a checklist which you can use to judge the genuineness of any desire.


Parameters of desire formation

So, let’s begin! Below I’ve put together a kind of scale. It’s a bit of a generalization, but overall it gives you a nice overview of this field of thought and allows you to start taking action (that’s right, enough thinking). Let’s start with small steps, but at least we’ll be moving forward…


1. Your role

Have you ever stopped to think which roles you are playing through your desires? Or rather: out of which “role” are these desires forming? Are you acting as a mother, which wishes the best for her child? Are you acting as a company director, wishing for your organisation to succeed and grow? What about a lonely woman, wishing for a meeting with her ideal partner in life? All of the above are roles: a mother, a director, a lonely woman, and so on. There is, however, also a genuine “me” – maybe not completely free of any role, but at least more so than the above. It is from this genuine “me” that you can form your most genuine desires.


2. The object

The most interesting part starts here. The first article of this series contains various reasons why we form certain desires. Here I will add one more thought and you will consider it and “try it on” for yourself: is your desire important to you personally? Not for your status, not just to have it, not to be cooler than your neighbour, and certainly not to please someone else. Is the desire meaningful for you and you alone?


3. Time

People often come to us with a request such as this:


“I am trying to attract my ideal partner, but already 3 years have passed, and still no results…”


Time is a relative parameter. Three years is long for some, short for others, long in some circumstances, short in others. Sometimes you just need to keep waiting – simple as that. It may take 3 weeks, 3 months, 3 years, or 30 years! If your desire is genuine, it shouldn’t matter…

But don’t JUST wait. Wait and keep taking steps forward. As always, there one BUT: don’t forget about the fact that you are constantly changing – every day (and if talking about your body, on the physical level, then literally every second!) – and these changes usually touch on several aspects of your life. So, why not consider your desires from this perspective? Is your desire important and relevant for the current moment in your life. This is where the key lies, not how much time has passed.


4. Other People

Ah yes, other people… We’ve gotten used to relying on them, sharing with them, and listening to what they have to say (especially if they are emotionally close to us). Did you know that the 5 people that are most often around you will influence your life the most? Put another way, a large part of who you are and a large the way your life is right now is a product of the 5 people that you spend the most time with. So, naturally, they will also have an influence on the types of desires that you have, sometimes so subtly that you won’t realise it.

Here’s some food for thought for you: is what you want personally for yourself important enough for you to strive toward its realisation, regardless of anyone around you, what they say, what they think, and what they will do in response?


5. Your subconscious

This is a huge field in which the realisation of many desires gets lost. At the same time, your readiness to work on and with yourself, and your bravery in peering into and clearing out the “skeletons in the closet” not only allow you to realise your desires but also give you additional resources and strategies that you can use to great success.

Trouble is, few people want to delve deeper into themselves and work on their inner world. Fewer still want to sort out topics that are personally unpleasant. But that’s too bad, since you create and suppress your own happiness; you keep the key to your own treasures, which under the right conditions can open up a whole new world around you.


6. Actions

Is the desire ephemeral/abstract, or concrete-enough with a clear algorithm of steps to take toward its realisation? If it’s impossible to take certain actions to come objectively closer to realising the desire, then it’s likely that you’re simply idly dreaming. Actions – regular, consistent actions: that is the investment vehicle for your success in ALL aspects of life, in ALL desires.

Consider what you have DONE to bring your desire closer to realisation? Be honest with yourself – have you really done anything at all? Keep in mind that visualization, meditation, and other manifestation techniques are just tools. They are allies. Don’t confuse them with actual actions…

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I sincerely hope that this article has added to your understanding, has made you ask yourself important questions, and maybe even given you some deeper insights into your own life. There are no ready answers, there’s no fast-food takeaway/delivery equivalent in manifestation or personal improvement in general. There cannot be and will never be.

If 10,000 people read this article, then each will take away their own insights, interpretations, conclusions, plans, and actions – 10,000 unique combinations. And if each of these 10,000 people reads this article again in one month’s time, then each will again take away a unique combination of information – different from last time. Why? Read Parameter 3. 😉


Good luck, dear Manifestor!


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